Sunday, October 11, 2009

It's about being blunt

"The truth will set you free"

            How often is that quote thrown around with no explanation? We are told that we must always tell the truth, but we are never told it's often much easier to lie. Most people would rather lie to someones face and be nice than to say what they are really thinking and risk retaliation, but what we don't realize is that lies create more lies.
            Now it's true that telling a lie to not hurt someones feelings does not mean you will have to lie again down the road, but what it does mean is that the "keep them happy" lie might cause an emotion or returned comment that would have not been given or felt if we had not lied in the first place. That feeling or gift is lie. Your "white lie" has now become something else entirely and, most likely, will require you to lie again to keep that "happiness" alive.
            There may be a time and place for "white lies", but it's not something you can really take lightly. So ask yourself, is it worth finally breaking the chain later and hurting them much worse later when you could just tell the hard truth now?

1 comment:

  1. This sounds a lot like when I was dating my last girlfriend. I couldn't keep lying to make ME happy though. It's bad enough lying to keep someone else happy, but even worse when you lie to keep yourself happy.

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